Serving divorce papers in California means having another adult physically deliver your petition and summons to your spouse — and proving it to the court with form FL-115. You cannot do it yourself, and the court will not advance your case until service is complete.
Here are the legal methods, the deadlines, and the options when a spouse won’t cooperate.
Quick Answer: The Rules of Service You cannot serve your own spouse — a neutral adult 18 or older must do it No fixed deadline to serve — but the 30-day response clock only starts once your spouse is served Proof: the server completes form FL-115 (Proof of Service of Summons), which you file with the court Cost: 50–125 USD for a professional process server, or free by mail with a Notice of Acknowledgment (FL-117) By-mail option: available only if your spouse agrees to sign and return the acknowledgment form Verified against official sources: California Courts Self-Help Center (selfhelp.courts.ca.gov), Code of Civil Procedure §415.10–415.50, and current Judicial Council forms. Sources (verified September 2026).
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